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Ten Ways You Can Become More Valuable to Everyone you Encounter
Be the change you want to see occur in the world around you. We can’t make other people be more considerate, honest, etc., but if everyone were to work on themselves and develop these attributes, our world would be a better place.
1. Don’t be judgmental. Look for and recognize the good in others. We are all capable of “good” and “bad” behaviors and we all have our “good” and “off” days. Being different is not “bad”, it is just “different”. Likewise, forget the concepts of “right” and “wrong”. People are not good or bad or right or wrong; they just are.
2. Respect. Your rights are NOT the only ones that count. Don’t ignore the other person’s rights. Respect is acknowledging another human being’s dignity and treating them how you wish to be treated yourself. We all came to this earth equal and we’re all checking out as equals. What happens in between is just a series of different life experiences.
3. Be a Good Listener. Do you really listen to other people? How often do you plan what you are going to say next while they are talking, or allow your mind to drift off onto something else instead of concentrating on their every word? Be a good listener. This shows respect and you will comprehend the real message being given to you, avoiding misunderstandings and important information.
4. Be interested - not interesting. People love to talk about themselves, so ask questions and take an interest in what they are telling you. Don’t worry about them hogging the limelight - you can have your turn during the conversation. Count the number of times you use “I” in your conversations. Judging, arguing points, interrupting the conversation, and using “I” a lot are sure signs you need to review your communication skills.
5. Respond from Your Heart. We tend to respond to others using our head, not our heart. We formulate stories about us, defend our ego, or we judge other people or what they have said. If we respond from our heart, we can respond with understanding and a sense of connection. Find something good to say about people and to people. Build people “up” - don’t knock them down.
6. Be truthful. Nothing good ever comes from lies, and there is a difference between being diplomatic and telling an outright lie. Nobody trusts a liar. You don’t have to tell your truth “brutally”, there are gentle and tactful ways of delivering truths and you should think carefully before you speak. But don’t try to be deceitful because it has a habit of coming back to haunt you.
7. Be helpful. When you need a helping hand, don’t you just love the person who comes up and offers that to you? If you want people to be helpful to you, you must be helpful to others. For example: assisting your boss with a special project, or a co-worker who is struggling with a large workload, or an elderly neighbor struggling up the stairs with her arms full. People do remember kindness.
8. Maintain Your Integrity and Your Dignity. People with their integrity intact know where they stand and you know where you stand with them. You will feel better about yourself when you set your standards and stand by them, and you will attract those who respect your standards. Being a doormat is disrespectful to yourself and to the person ‘walking all over you’. It does not allow them to grow and learn to do something for themselves.
9. Go the Extra Mile. Whether you are asked to do something, or you are offering to do something, if that something is worth doing, then it is worth doing well. And while you are at it, what little touches can you offer to improve it? Going the extra mile need not involve a large expense of time, energy or money, but it’s value is often priceless, and one day, it will be reciprocated.
10. Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say. Neither be evasive, nor make promises you can’t keep. If you say you are going to do something, do it. Be reliable. Honor your word. Be flexible when necessary. If you are wishy-washy, people will walk all over you. Being like this does not prove you are valuable - it just means you are a ‘pushover’.
Terri Levine, The Guru of Coaching ®
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